Some people are so touchy...myself included.

So, last night I had a talk with my signif other about none other than, you guessed it food. I had made a comment about the veggies that I had made the night before that he didn't even touch and how if he wanted dinner he could reheat what I made then (I only cook every other night) To which he replied, "I'll find something," which sort of made my eye twitch. I took it personally like he doesn't like my cooking. Part of me said, "well, if he doesn't like what I cook I guess he'll just go hungry," very matter-of-factly may I add.  But the other side of me said, "what's wrong with my cooking that makes it so deplorable that you don't even taste it at least!" My overwhelming need to please took over so I asked, "what about my veggies don't you like?" "I just don't like them," he replied. I told him that it was an unacceptable answer and demanded to know what about them didn't he like. "Think about when it's on your tongue, what part don't you like? That they are too crunchy? bland? salty? too soft?"

Coming from a family of foodies I am trying hard to understand his tastes.  He grew up eating typical American processed foods (he hails from the home of condiments, Pittsburgh) while I grew up with a garden in the backyard and eating eggplant, asparagus, and colored potatoes (things he turns up his nose at) usually steamed with garlic or sauted with onions.

So finally coming to an agreement that I wasn't going to change all of my foods to meet his needs and that he would try some of mine (like tonight I made great northern beans and sauted onions with tomatoes on top) an if there was something that he didn't like he would explain what about it he doesn't like.  This should help to connect us more to our food in learning to discern tastes.

Hey, for years I thought beer was the most horrible tasting thing on the planet, after years of discerning flavors, I have found it to be quite satifying with the perfect match of satly foods.

Tell me about how your talks about food got you into a sticky situation...